Season Beatings to all

I'm always fascinated by the number of pictures appearing on the internet all of the time depicting ordinary folk who would never associate themselves with kinky websites or BDSM or anything that many of us spend our lives browsing, thinking and acting out, yet indulge in spanking as a fun activity. One thing that occurred to me recently is that while many of these are in the context of birthday spankings, probably the next most common scenario outside of the spanking scene is the one-smacker. Certainly I've enjoyed a few occasions when I've made use of a situation to give an attractive female acquaintance a swat across her rear. One or two took exception, one or two more were taken aback by how much it stung, several just laughed it off.

But if you look on the web you come across an intersting scenario that I have never seen the spanko community try out in a photoshoot or video. It's the one-smacker where the spankee is so outraged by the force of the smack that they feel compelled to display the marks for the world to see. And some very fine pictures there are.

One single smack delivered to a bare, previously unmarked butt with maximum possible force is quite something. The resulting palm print is a work of art, but the sensation for the spankee is also something very different. Love to see someone from our community have a go at this with comments from both parties about their feelings about the experience (and lots of pictures before and afetr please!)

Important web link

Everyone who ever puts into practice their fantasies about spanking etc really needs to read this piece.

http://www.alternet.org/story/12210/

Very thought provoking.

Spoiled for Choice

There's some very inspirational material from vanilla sources. I mean wouldn't it just be an amazing experience to have to deal with this set of naughty young ladies. I wouldn't know where to start....
Second thoughts - I'd start with the third from the right - just in case my arm got tired before I got to her!

Thoughts while travelling

I travel a lot for work and often in hotels at night by myself it's a bit boring. Last night I'm sitting in a hotel club room having a quiet(ish) drink - this "ish" was mainly because of a group of Australians sitting nearby discussing different experiences of flights they had recently. After discussing the different seat configurations of Airbus and Boeing (yawn) one of them started on a recent flight where there had been a family with some kids running riot and the parent apparently unable to do anything to control them (thinks - message to all airlines - kids are best placed in the luggage hold).

The one of them said something about he would never have dared behave like that when he was a kid and suddenly the conversation became more interesting. Before I knew what was happening one of the guys was saying how often at his school if something happened to one of the kids in class and nobody would own up to be punished the teacher would go 'round and give the belt to everyone in the class apart from the victim, and how he thought that was really bad for the victim who had to watch it all. I've never been a fan of collective punishment and I could well see that the "victim" might end worse off as a lot of innocent kids got whacked and resented him/her for being the cause.

It also made me recall a story from a long time back when I was growing up. My parents were friendly with an older couple whose son had gone into teaching. I remember them saying once that the school he was in was a bit tough and on one occasion he'd taken his watch off during a class and it went missing. A search failed to find it and nobody owned up so in the end he had lined up the entire class (boys and girls) and caned every one of them but still didn't get his watch back. Amazing that this was ever acceptable I think. I'm not one of those who prefixes my website/blog with comments about not condoning the corporal punishment of minors because - so long as it's not done for sexual gratification - I think it has a place, but I would have expected parents to have been outraged if their son or daughter was caned or belted for something they hadn't done with this sort of "class action."

Back to the conversation in the hotel where one of the women in the group now added her story. She had two younger brothers and something (I didn't hear what) had gone wrong and they had been asked which of them was responsible with a threat that they might all be punished. She saw that her youngest brother was upset at the thought so she had owned up. However the other brother had then been ashamed and had admitted it was really him. The result was that their father had belted him for what he'd done wrong and then given her a good hiding for lying to try to cover up the truth. Now that does have some element of justice to it I suppose!

Love our lurkers day

Delighted to be a part of this great annual event and thanks to Bonnie for organising it. Delighted that I now have 24 people who are following this blog regularly. Delighted that occasionally someone posts a comment. Disappointed there aren't more comments? Well I suppose so. In particular nobody ever seems to comment when I go all serious about something, but those are the posts that matter most to me. However I'll keep going - sporadically. Any if any lurkers ever decide to just say hello I'll always appreciate it.

Pandora - thanks for the memory!

I always keep an eye on Pandora Blake's brilliant blog but this particular post has evoked a memory from many years ago - I used to hate PE at school and the teacher was a real sadist. One particular time he was trying to get us to vault over one of these horrible things and I still remember when he decided some us weren't trying he stood alongside with a plimsoll and if you didn't make it over you were liable to get a sharp crack of the plimsoll across your gym shorts. Now if I was PE teacher and had a naughty girl not trying to exercise properly I can see why one of these would be so useful.

If like me you treasure such memories the full size picture is on Pandora's site.

New Blog

Well not the new actually but new to me. My Spanish isn't very good but there is some stunning photography on (Sub)Missão: um relacionamento intenso e único so it's well worth a look. This image is so beautifully understated and invites you to use your imagination to create a story around it.

Noisy parties

Don't you just hate it when the summer comes, a group of students living in a nearby house decide the better weather is an excuse for a noisy party with lots of alcohol flowing, and nobody can get any peace???? Err, no. Not really.

I hate labels.

I hate labels.

We all use them as a kind of shorthand but in the process we dehumanise people and do massive damage to our society and to the life of individuals.

I've touched on this before but I feel very strongly (and unfortunately whenever I go off on one of these serious rants, it seems everyone switches off and I get even less feedback than usual although that might be quite difficult right now).

I've seen a number of news stories over the last year or so where school children have been accused (and in some cases convicted) of sexually harassing or abusing fellow pupils - in some cases actually involving rape. It's very easy and natural to brand these as disgusting little perverts who need to be kept in a secure place where they can't harm anyone else. Except that, when I cast my mind back, I can think of times I was at school and did things which would put me in that same category. I used to travel home from school by train along with a lot of others from my (all boys) school and similar numbers from an adjacent (all-girls) school. The trains were always busy and in particular a lot got off at the same station that I used and there was always a big crush to get through the ticket barrier. There were many times I managed to arrange to be behind a schoolgirl of about the same age as myself with my hand pressing her bottom as we pushed through. If someone had suggested this was a criminal activity I'd have thought they were barking. Eventually I came to realise it perhaps wasn't a very good thing to do although I never got caught.

The press love to use labels - we've seen high profile case in the last year where people were labelled as hooker, prostitutes and so on even without evidence of them selling sex as such. But once the label is there everyone can treat them contemptuously without stopping to think about what's really going on. Adele Haze on her wonderful blog has written several times around this theme saying, for example, that as a spanking model she accepts the term "sex worker" to describe what she does. She's also written some interesting stuff about the sorts of jobs people perhaps can or can't have if they're into this sort of scene.

Of course, the number one case for labelling is paedophile. Before I go any further I have to say that I don't condone or approve people sexually exploiting or abusing under-age boys or girls and personally I can't imagine what they get out of it. But one event this week in the North East of England when a man and his pregnant wife had to be rescued from their own home by police after it was attacked by a mob who had heard (mistakenly as it happens) that he was a paedophile demonstrates how bad people's reaction to labels can be.

If society decided tomorrow that consensual spanking between adults and images and fantasy stories on the subject were to be illegal could I switch off my interest in order to comply with the law?

However the most damaging aspect of labels is perhaps the impact on the criminal justice system. I keep on the right side of the law (for now - unless they change it as I said in the previous paragraph) and part of the reason is that I couldn't live with being labelled as a criminal. I could pay the fine, even lose my freedom for a period of time if I had to, but it would be having other people know me as a criminal that would be unbearable. That might sound a good thing. The trouble is that it works the other way as well. Once someone has acquired the label then there's no way back and no real incentive not to keep on breaking the law since you're already stigmatised by the criminal label.

Birthday presents?

I've just seen an American website offering an unusual item that I think would make a perfect gift. They seem to suggest you buy one for yourself and get your friends to use it on you and then sign it as a souvenir. I'd rather arrange to have one sent to all my friends anonymously as a gift on their birthdays and just see which of them mentioned it at their birthday party!

The call of the sea

Come the summer sunshine and I feel strangely drawn to the beach...

Just want to say...

Oh YES!!!!

Facebook

I use Facebook a lot in my vanilla life but I've just started exploring it for my spanko life. I think it's got fantastic potential for networking. There are a few spanko groups on there but they're not that impressive. There are quite a few members (some of whom seem to live not far from me) but very few familiar names. I have an account there now as James Stephenson (and using the same profile picture that I use here). I've spotted Amy Hunter of Northern Spanking etc. but not many other familiar names as yet. I think it's worth people checking out.

Manswers

This short video tries to explain why so many people enjoy spanking and offers some interesting statistics as well.

Trouble is that I enjoy scenes that involve corporal punishment on the hands or legs as well as just the bottom so I don't think they've fully answered the question.

Websites

Long time no blog - I must try harder!
To get things back on track I've just added two text based websites to my links because I still enjoy a good traditional spanking story. Laura's Spanking Corner is a long established site that I've known about for years and features a few stories I wrote a long time ago. I've also put in a link to one called CP at School - might have also been around for a long time but I hadn't come across it and (aside from some irritating typos) there some good classic school based stories with a little more leaning to potentially credible real-life events than many of the more far-fetched fantasies out there.

No comment needed

This wonderful image (taken in Dublin Zoo) was found on a new blog site - very new as yet but I've noted the address in case more material of this calibre appears....

Venn diagrams and coincidence

Okay, this is going to sound weird (what's new) but bear with me. For some reason I found myself thinking about Venn Diagrams this morning - remember them from school maths? You draw circles where the area represents the size of a population and some parts of the circles overlap because some entities belong to more than one population. So if you draw a large circle representing how many people support Manchester United and another one representing how many people live in Manchester, there will be an overlap (quite a small one...) representing those Manchester United supporters who actually live in Manchester. You get the idea.

Well, I've no idea why this thought process came about but I was thinking about a Venn Diagram showing a circle representing spankos and another representing nudists and thinking that those who fell into the overlap (pun intended) area could have quite a difficult time. Now, anyone who isn't a spanko will just think I'm nuts, but I'm sure fellow spankos have these bizarre thoughts all the time (please, reassure me that it's not just me!).

Anyway, what was weird was this afternoon I came across a new website I hadn't looked at before and came across this picture of two people who clearly fit into that overlap category of my diagram...

Nothing like being stuck in one place...

...for twelve hours with nothing to do for starting a bit of creativity. I used to write a lot of spanking stories and as per usual I still have about eight or nine unfinished (or unstarted ideas). One I had an idea but just couldn't see how to make it work, another I was close to finishing but couldn't come up with an ending, another needed a twist to make it different to any others I've written or read. By the end of a very boring (otherwise) 12 hours they're all back on track. One question - do people still read spanking fiction? If so what's the most convenient form to publish? PDF files perhaps? Not sure how the security works with them - I know how to strip out personal details from Microsoft Word files but it's not a good distribution format but I'm not sure what might be buried in a PDF - anyone help?

Incidentally it's a good distraction from on-going health concerns.

Pain

I may not be a sub - I am definitely a top - but I can also switch a bit, and so I can get a rush of adrenalin and endorphins from pain in a play setting like many people. However, there's pain and then there's pain. Since my last blog I've been in a pretty nasty accident. I'm not hospitalised but I had a nice man come and stick a needle in my bum to reduce pain and redness which I might ordinarily have found amusing. Bit of a humour bypass at present. I've been given some of the heaviest duty painkillers they allow you to go around with but they're not working. I can't sleep, lie down, sit up, walk.... you get the picture. Right now I'm feeling sorry for myself and apprehensive - I may have to go in for some scans to check for internal injuries and I'm probably a bit scared what they might find. Pain isn't always much fun.

It gets worse

With my current mood of depression about the growing anti-sex approach of the British authorities by trying to criminalise ordinary consenting adults, I somehow missed the events happening at Westgate School until just now. As well as redefining prostitution and sex they seem to just want to drive everything completely underground when only the extreme, the illegal, and the most abusive, coercive and exploitative practices will survive and those just wanting harmless consensual fun will be denied or driven elsewhere. I'm fortunate to have the chance to often visit more liberal parts of the world if I want to explore such behaviour but it's a dreadfully retrograde state of affairs in the UK right now.

It's also depressing that parts of the CP community want to join in the legal bashing of individuals by using the courts to obtain IP addresses of users of a large file sharing website in order to try to track down and bring legal action and public humiliation on individuals who have allegedly downloaded illegal copies of some of their products. That many of the products concerned are being sold at contemporary prices but are of anything but contemporary quality might explain the reluctance of people to pay the originators but one also suspects they don't make it easy for people to pay (no, you can't have my credit card details and provide automatic re billing until I say stop - not sure what I do if you don't...). Until the providers sort out their pricing, distribution, and so on they don't get much sympathy from many.

Depressing

I recently posted about my views on the way the country is going in trying to make sex into a crime. Sadly I don't see any real basis for optimism. I had hoped at one stage that - in a way like it's become increasingly acceptable to be openly gay without every member of the same sex feeling threatened, we might move to a situation where it would be possible to be openly spanko without everyone feeling the need to stick a book down the back of their pants whenever you were around.

If anything we seem to be moving the other way. We're already on the brink of some parts of our "scene" being criminalised. While it don't see any likelihood of immediate danger of being criminalised by viewing material in the Xerotics, Girls Boarding School, Northern Spanking, Firm Hand type of areas, we're perhaps starting to get to a stage where possessing material from Lupus, Spanking Server/Pain4fem, Hard Caning/Caned 4 Cash or Mood might not be viewed so lightly.

It was interesting that when I was posting my previous item about the victimisation of Victoria Thorne I actually clicked the "publish" button, looked out the window, and saw a police patrol car cruising slowly past my house. There was a split second of paranoia. Perhaps - if things continue to decline - that's something we're all going to be facing for real. If at some point I found myself in the papers because of police interest in my predilections, I don't know how I'd cope with the effect on my family - it would probably cost me my job as well.

If I was told tomorrow that looking at some of sites I've just named was now illegal,would I never look at them again? I do have the advantage of a strong imagination - I can get excited about pictures that might seem perfectly innocent to someone else because I can weave a story around what is happening. Takes this one for example...

These three are obviously in for a stern ticking off from the headmistress and maybe more. The one on the right is probably the ringleader and is about to get told to take her hands out of her pockets and stand straight. The one on the left is the one least used to being in trouble - probably just easily lead. She'll be the weak link who'll confess and drop all three of them in it.

And what about this one...A stunning girl who is clearly in big trouble and waiting to go into the head's office who's being kept waiting deliberately so she can think about her behaviour and what the consequences are likely to be.

Yes - I love those sorts of pictures - but I want to live in a country where depiction of consensual acts isn't illegal and I don't get made to feel more and more like a criminal.

How mean spirited has the UK become?

Every so often I read something that sends me off-topic with annoyance and this is one such moment. The UK is supposed to be proud of it's justice system and being a fair-minded society. I think - increasingly - that sucks.

Take the case that's some up in court this week of the former policewoman who advertised herself on a website for escort girls. I'm quite sure that many people disapprove of prostitution and the veneer of the "escort" tag is not really going to convince anyone that she was doing anything other offering sex for sale at £100 an hour. I think people are a bit to quick to judge on such matters - especially when you see figures about how many men use prostitutes. Nevertheless, even I would concede that her part-time job potentially compromised her integrity and could have made it difficult for her to do her full-time job properly and for that error of judgement I could understand that she probably deserved to be sacked by the police force.
However, so far as I have read, nobody is suggesting that she blackmailed anyone into anything by telling them she was a police officer, or that she had actually treated a "client" differently when she came across them as a police officer, nor that she even told her clients that she worked for the police. There is no suggestion that her activities "out of hours" hurt anyone except perhaps herself, and now her family, given the way she has been named and exposed by the press and media.

So why do we need her to be charged with the offence of "Misconduct in a Public Office" (to which she has pleaded guilty)? The charge can lead to a possible sentence of Life Imprisonment! That she has now been remanded in custody while the case takes place against the other defendants involved means that the judge is clearly minded to impose a prison sentence for this "offence". I would have thought that there had to be more of a connection between the "misconduct" and the "public office" (like if she'd attempted to use her police position to obstruct the investigation) but the law doesn't seem to have such a requirement. It's not entirely clear what constitutes a public office but I guess all of us employed in the public sector will have to be careful.

I think she should be freed now and allowed to try to rebuild her life instead of being hounded like this.

It's official - spanking is good for you!

Finally scientists have confirmed what we all suspected...
Spanking is good in a relationship. I happen to hold the view that the couple in the picture have things the wrong way round. If she's shrieking like it appears when she's doling it out, I assume she's going to make quite a bit of noise just now when he turns the tables on her!

Judicial CP of females

There are many spanking sites that proclaim that they don't condone corporal punishment of minors, use of minors for sexual purposes and so on - I wholeheartedly agree with those statements. I have seen some that say they don't condone any non-consensual use of corporal punishment - where it's motivated by sexual stimulation I would agree again but would I oppose any use of corporal punishment in a non-consensual way -perhaps judicial caning for example?

I feel I have to address the issue as a couple of people have emailed me directly about some recent posts I made on here about the use of caning in Malaysia. One objected very strongly to me featuring real young women named - and in one case pictured - who may face a judicial caning for breaching religious based laws, and saying that it was wrong to put forward such cases when some people looking at the site would probably find the stories sexually arousing.

Okay, so here goes. Do I think it's okay for people to find the stories arousing? I can't say that I found them that way, or really thought about them that way. However, much of our play fantasy is based - however loosely - around real punishments, maybe in the past. I'm not sure if any adult spanking website would have the nerve to do a fantasy around a Muslim woman being caned under Sharia law - I suspect the outcry would be greater and potentially more endangering than the outcry we have seen in the past about Nazi style scenes. However, what people may choose to do in the private fantasy enactments could be quite different - many people quest for new ideas for scenarios for play. I wouldn't be averse to such a role play.

The second article makes it very clear that these are not meant to be barbaric or likely to seriously injure, unlike the other sorts of canings carried out in that part of the world. Hence I don't think publishing the articles and the photo of the one young lady already sentenced to be caned is showing anything that is especially violent or nasty - in fact the second article makes the point that such punishments are more to do with humiliating than harming.

Do I think consuming alcohol should warrant such a punishment? Well, if a country decided to make it illegal for everyone then I don't see that as being unreasonable. I don't like the idea that because someone has a particular religion they are treated differently to those of other religions in the same country - religion, to me, is about a choice you make rather than an accident of birth. If the young lady felt that she wanted to be of that faith and that she deserved some punishment for infringing the rules of that faith that would be one thing, but not as an automatic given just because of her parents backgrounds.

One thing this has done for me is to make me wonder what offences I would like to see this sort of "somewhat painful but more humiliating" judicial corporal punishment to be used for. The first one I've come up with is using a handheld mobile phone while driving. It makes the journey through commuter traffic to work that much more interesting to spot young ladies breaking the law that way and speculating that under my new law they could be caned for doing so. And wouldn't that make for an interesting safety advert campaign?

Essential hotel facility

I want one.

Guard dog

Interesting way to prevent someone taking you by surpise with a smack on the behind...

Canings in Malaysia

This is the follow on to a previous post of mine about the re-emergence of the quasi-judicial use of caning as a punishment for female offenders in Malaysia. I found this one interesting both because it suggests the other case is not just going to be a one-off incident, but also because there is some detail given about the modus operandi. It also has a quote from the girl who - it seems - is likely to be the next one to be on the receiving end of such a punishment and the tone is interesting. No pleading or begging for mercy or saying she disagrees with the process. In fact she seems remarkably accepting of her likely fate in perhaps the same way that traditionally schoolkids in the UK tended to be acquiescent when told to report to the headmaster for the cane.

Breaking free

It's fantastic to read on another blog of the author telling her close family about her enjoyment of being spanked - one day maybe we will all feel free to do the same.

Times are changing

..but sometimes in the opposite direction to what we expect, as evidenced by this story of a country where caning of female offenders is being reintroduced.

My mis-spent youth

I often think back to when I was at school. My fascination with corporal punishment was already well developed and I read everything I could find on the subject, but despite being at schools where it was used I didn't have the bottle to actually do anything to put my own posterior in danger. Except.... Except maybe once.

I guess I was about fourteen at the time. I had a legitimate reason to go into the school on a Saturday expecting to meet up with others, but when I arrived I found they were just going for the afternoon and I had thought it was meant to be all day. The school was deserted and unable to do what I'd gone for, I just wandered around to find something to occupy me. Which is how I came across the deputy headmaster's office with the door wide open and a sign attached asking the cleaners not to lock it. Now at that time, he was the only person in the school to give out official corporal punishment in the form of canings. I knew, from all my reading, that it was a legal requirement for schools to record corporal punishment in an official register, and the obvious place for our school to store the punishment book would be his office.

There were two issues - the school was so deathly quite that I should hear anyone approaching thanks to the wooden floors. On the other hand it was located in a bit of a dead end so it wouldn't be easy to get away without being heard. The possibility of seeing the punishment book and being able to read it was too great a temptation.

I just stood in there for a few moments - the first time I'd been in the room - and imagined the scene as errant pupils were caned just where I stood. The silence was reassuring and I began to search. No cupboards or drawers were locked so I ended up looking everywhere. I found the cane itself but never found the punishment book. If I had, I know I could not have been satisfied with just looking to see whose names were there, what they'd done and what they'd got. I would undoubtedly have stolen it. And what would the consequences have been then? I was tempted to steal the cane but just couldn't see how I was going to conceal it to take it anywhere.

What would you think...?

...if you were engaged in some light banter at work. An attractive female colleague in her early twenties was in front of you and made a slightly cheeky remark to you. You brandished the ruler you happened to have in your hand at the time in a mildly threatening manner (not that I'd dare do anything with it because I want to keep my job) and she said "Oooh - a spanking!"

Hmm - that's what I've been thinking as well.