Err, no. Not really.
Monday, 24 August 2009
Noisy parties
Don't you just hate it when the summer comes, a group of students living in a nearby house decide the better weather is an excuse for a noisy party with lots of alcohol flowing, and nobody can get any peace???? 
Err, no. Not really.
Err, no. Not really.
Wednesday, 12 August 2009
I hate labels.
I hate labels.
We all use them as a kind of shorthand but in the process we dehumanise people and do massive damage to our society and to the life of individuals.
I've touched on this before but I feel very strongly (and unfortunately whenever I go off on one of these serious rants, it seems everyone switches off and I get even less feedback than usual although that might be quite difficult right now).
I've seen a number of news stories over the last year or so where school children have been accused (and in some cases convicted) of sexually harassing or abusing fellow pupils - in some cases actually involving rape. It's very easy and natural to brand these as disgusting little perverts who need to be kept in a secure place where they can't harm anyone else. Except that, when I cast my mind back, I can think of times I was at school and did things which would put me in that same category. I used to travel home from school by train along with a lot of others from my (all boys) school and similar numbers from an adjacent (all-girls) school. The trains were always busy and in particular a lot got off at the same station that I used and there was always a big crush to get through the ticket barrier. There were many times I managed to arrange to be behind a schoolgirl of about the same age as myself with my hand pressing her bottom as we pushed through. If someone had suggested this was a criminal activity I'd have thought they were barking. Eventually I came to realise it perhaps wasn't a very good thing to do although I never got caught.
The press love to use labels - we've seen high profile case in the last year where people were labelled as hooker, prostitutes and so on even without evidence of them selling sex as such. But once the label is there everyone can treat them contemptuously without stopping to think about what's really going on. Adele Haze on her wonderful blog has written several times around this theme saying, for example, that as a spanking model she accepts the term "sex worker" to describe what she does. She's also written some interesting stuff about the sorts of jobs people perhaps can or can't have if they're into this sort of scene.
Of course, the number one case for labelling is paedophile. Before I go any further I have to say that I don't condone or approve people sexually exploiting or abusing under-age boys or girls and personally I can't imagine what they get out of it. But one event this week in the North East of England when a man and his pregnant wife had to be rescued from their own home by police after it was attacked by a mob who had heard (mistakenly as it happens) that he was a paedophile demonstrates how bad people's reaction to labels can be.
If society decided tomorrow that consensual spanking between adults and images and fantasy stories on the subject were to be illegal could I switch off my interest in order to comply with the law?
However the most damaging aspect of labels is perhaps the impact on the criminal justice system. I keep on the right side of the law (for now - unless they change it as I said in the previous paragraph) and part of the reason is that I couldn't live with being labelled as a criminal. I could pay the fine, even lose my freedom for a period of time if I had to, but it would be having other people know me as a criminal that would be unbearable. That might sound a good thing. The trouble is that it works the other way as well. Once someone has acquired the label then there's no way back and no real incentive not to keep on breaking the law since you're already stigmatised by the criminal label.
We all use them as a kind of shorthand but in the process we dehumanise people and do massive damage to our society and to the life of individuals.
I've touched on this before but I feel very strongly (and unfortunately whenever I go off on one of these serious rants, it seems everyone switches off and I get even less feedback than usual although that might be quite difficult right now).
I've seen a number of news stories over the last year or so where school children have been accused (and in some cases convicted) of sexually harassing or abusing fellow pupils - in some cases actually involving rape. It's very easy and natural to brand these as disgusting little perverts who need to be kept in a secure place where they can't harm anyone else. Except that, when I cast my mind back, I can think of times I was at school and did things which would put me in that same category. I used to travel home from school by train along with a lot of others from my (all boys) school and similar numbers from an adjacent (all-girls) school. The trains were always busy and in particular a lot got off at the same station that I used and there was always a big crush to get through the ticket barrier. There were many times I managed to arrange to be behind a schoolgirl of about the same age as myself with my hand pressing her bottom as we pushed through. If someone had suggested this was a criminal activity I'd have thought they were barking. Eventually I came to realise it perhaps wasn't a very good thing to do although I never got caught.
The press love to use labels - we've seen high profile case in the last year where people were labelled as hooker, prostitutes and so on even without evidence of them selling sex as such. But once the label is there everyone can treat them contemptuously without stopping to think about what's really going on. Adele Haze on her wonderful blog has written several times around this theme saying, for example, that as a spanking model she accepts the term "sex worker" to describe what she does. She's also written some interesting stuff about the sorts of jobs people perhaps can or can't have if they're into this sort of scene.
Of course, the number one case for labelling is paedophile. Before I go any further I have to say that I don't condone or approve people sexually exploiting or abusing under-age boys or girls and personally I can't imagine what they get out of it. But one event this week in the North East of England when a man and his pregnant wife had to be rescued from their own home by police after it was attacked by a mob who had heard (mistakenly as it happens) that he was a paedophile demonstrates how bad people's reaction to labels can be.
If society decided tomorrow that consensual spanking between adults and images and fantasy stories on the subject were to be illegal could I switch off my interest in order to comply with the law?
However the most damaging aspect of labels is perhaps the impact on the criminal justice system. I keep on the right side of the law (for now - unless they change it as I said in the previous paragraph) and part of the reason is that I couldn't live with being labelled as a criminal. I could pay the fine, even lose my freedom for a period of time if I had to, but it would be having other people know me as a criminal that would be unbearable. That might sound a good thing. The trouble is that it works the other way as well. Once someone has acquired the label then there's no way back and no real incentive not to keep on breaking the law since you're already stigmatised by the criminal label.
Sunday, 2 August 2009
Birthday presents?
I've just seen an American website offering an unusual item that I think would make a perfect gift. They seem to suggest you buy one for yourself and get your friends to use it on you and then sign it as a souvenir. I'd rather arrange to have one sent to all my friends anonymously as a gift on their birthdays and just see which of them mentioned it at their birthday party!
Monday, 27 July 2009
Friday, 24 July 2009
Thursday, 23 July 2009
I use Facebook a lot in my vanilla life but I've just started exploring it for my spanko life. I think it's got fantastic potential for networking. There are a few spanko groups on there but they're not that impressive. There are quite a few members (some of whom seem to live not far from me) but very few familiar names. I have an account there now as James Stephenson (and using the same profile picture that I use here). I've spotted Amy Hunter of Northern Spanking etc. but not many other familiar names as yet. I think it's worth people checking out.
Thursday, 16 July 2009
Manswers
This short video tries to explain why so many people enjoy spanking and offers some interesting statistics as well.
Trouble is that I enjoy scenes that involve corporal punishment on the hands or legs as well as just the bottom so I don't think they've fully answered the question.
Wednesday, 8 July 2009
Websites
Long time no blog - I must try harder!
To get things back on track I've just added two text based websites to my links because I still enjoy a good traditional spanking story. Laura's Spanking Corner is a long established site that I've known about for years and features a few stories I wrote a long time ago. I've also put in a link to one called CP at School - might have also been around for a long time but I hadn't come across it and (aside from some irritating typos) there some good classic school based stories with a little more leaning to potentially credible real-life events than many of the more far-fetched fantasies out there.
To get things back on track I've just added two text based websites to my links because I still enjoy a good traditional spanking story. Laura's Spanking Corner is a long established site that I've known about for years and features a few stories I wrote a long time ago. I've also put in a link to one called CP at School - might have also been around for a long time but I hadn't come across it and (aside from some irritating typos) there some good classic school based stories with a little more leaning to potentially credible real-life events than many of the more far-fetched fantasies out there.
Tuesday, 9 June 2009
No comment needed
This wonderful image (taken in Dublin Zoo) was found on a new blog site - very new as yet but I've noted the address in case more material of this calibre appears....
Saturday, 30 May 2009
Venn diagrams and coincidence
Okay, this is going to sound weird (what's new) but bear with me. For some reason I found myself thinking about Venn Diagrams this morning - remember them from school maths? You draw circles where the area represents the size of a population and some parts of the circles overlap because some entities belong to more than one population. So if you draw a large circle representing how many people support Manchester United and another one representing how many people live in Manchester, there will be an overlap (quite a small one...) representing those Manchester United supporters who actually live in Manchester. You get the idea.
Well, I've no idea why this thought process came about but I was thinking about a Venn Diagram showing a circle representing spankos and another representing nudists and thinking that those who fell into the overlap (pun intended) area could have quite a difficult time. Now, anyone who isn't a spanko will just think I'm nuts, but I'm sure fellow spankos have these bizarre thoughts all the time (please, reassure me that it's not just me!).
Anyway, what was weird was this afternoon I came across a new website I hadn't looked at before and came across this picture of two people who clearly fit into that overlap category of my diagram...
Well, I've no idea why this thought process came about but I was thinking about a Venn Diagram showing a circle representing spankos and another representing nudists and thinking that those who fell into the overlap (pun intended) area could have quite a difficult time. Now, anyone who isn't a spanko will just think I'm nuts, but I'm sure fellow spankos have these bizarre thoughts all the time (please, reassure me that it's not just me!).
Anyway, what was weird was this afternoon I came across a new website I hadn't looked at before and came across this picture of two people who clearly fit into that overlap category of my diagram...
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